Okay, I admit, I cringed a little when I saw this topic for a couple reasons. One is that I’m passably decent at a lot of things, but I’m not sure that I’d consider these things mad skills. Two, and this is something Jess and I were talking about, is that we were both brought up with the idea that if you were ever proud of yourself or something you did, that was a bad, bad thing. That meant you were bragging.
Now, my mom never had this mindset – she was always proud of us and encouraging us to revel in our accomplishments. My grandmothers…not so much. Don’t get me wrong, they were awesome people, and I miss them, but expressing pride wasn’t really a comfortable place for either of them. And they weren’t down with us doing it either. I think some of it was a generational thing, and some of it was a societal thing. I know plenty of women in my age bracket who have difficulty being proud of themselves and an equal amount of difficulty accepting complements. Probably because saying thank you feels a lot like bragging. Instead, we point out what’s wrong with our hair, our weight, the project we just finished, etc. We downplay it instead of just enjoying the fact that someone said something kind to us.
Honestly, the only time I’m ever comfortable saying thank you is when people tell me I have great kids. And I suspect that’s because I feel like their awesomeness is more about them than me.
(You had no idea you were in for a therapy session today, did you?)
But…I think it’s kind of crippling and unfortunately not to be able to accept a compliment. Or being genuinely proud of yourself. You know…as long as you’re not a dick about it. So…I’m going to attempt to list some things that I think I’m pretty good at.
1. Working with kids – even other people’s kids. Even teenagers. I did daycare in my home for 18 years, and I loved it. No…not every moment. Definitely not dealing with The Young Prince (or his mother) but I genuinely love and enjoy kids, and they seem to like me. There’s only one kid I know of who thinks I’m a bad idea. And even she’s warming up to me.
2. Sewing and figuring out yardage. It should be noted that I can’t do math to save my life. Seriously. I kept insisting to my mom the other day that .29 +.30 = .49 – I’m embarrassed to tell you how long it took me to see the error in that logic. However, I can look at a garment and figure out how much fabric I need to reproduce it. And often, I can copy an existing piece of clothing (or a picture) without a pattern. Sometimes, it’s just easier to do with a pattern, but if I don’t have one, I’ll wing it. Mostly because I’m lazy and hate cutting out tissue paper pattern pieces. Sadly, fabric math does not extend beyond clothing. I will screw up quilt and curtain math every time. Oh, here’s an example of a dress made from a picture.
3.) Cross stitching. I’m pretty good at taking reference pictures and making up patterns. Not like making up a physical pattern. I don’t have time for that shit. Just sort of stitching the idea from my head and/or the picture. Here are a couple examples of things I didn’t have a pattern for.
The toe looks a little wonky on that last one – I needed to press it better…
4.) I give good phone. No. No that kind of phone. I’m just really good at making phone calls and getting all kinds of information. I make cold calls for research all the time, and I almost always get great results. I also get pretty good results with regular information gathering phone calls, too.
So…that’s the round up of things that I feel confident saying I’m pretty good at. I’m excited to see what the other bloggers’ skills are! Click their names to find out.